I just signed on to my first online dating site, ChocolateMate.com. Its geared towards black singles, and I always wondered if it would be annoying or offensive to sign up as an asian girl. Now, I’m more curious to see if I’ll get the same amount of attention as I would if I were at a nightclub filled with black singles. They seem to like Asian girls there, so why not online?
While I still prefer to meet people in person, I like online dating because its freakishly efficient. You don’t get the same sixth-sense intuitionary vibes that you get when you first meet eyes with someone across the room, but you get alot of details out, quick and easy. You know how much I love things that are freakishly efficient. Sign up. Its free.
Okay, and lets discuss the “once you go black, you don’t go back.” I absolutely hate when people say this, especially when they’re referring to me! I’m only on my second black boyfriend, sheesh! The real reason I seem to prefer black men:
1. They don’t take certain things for granted. The men who are professionally motivated work twice as hard to achieve their goals, because they have to. I’m the same way. There’s too much at stake when you’re not a member of the machine, especially with all the good ‘ol southern boys of Georgia. Not that this always happens, but there’s always a chance that someone is holding a prejudice against me, whether its because I’m a woman, have squinty asian eyes, have a foreign last name, look too young, too pretty or too ugly. There’s too much at stake to not be on my game at all times.
2. I like new experiences, and before moving to Atlanta 2 years ago, I had never dated a black man. I had never really been exposed to many intelligent, successful black people. I can only think of 3 friends growing up that were black. Growing up in a redneck town and filipino naval base was pretty limiting. I had never met a Jewish person until college. Wow, huh?
3. I can’t wait to “mutt my kids up.” Both my parents are Filipino, and I know that by marrying another Filipino, I already know exactly how we would live our lives for the rest of our lives. It would be a whole string of catholic celebrations: baptisms, first communions, prayer celebrations. Christmas is the only one I look forward to anymore. Anyway, there would also be soooo many expectations to fulfill, because I’m competitive, and I would want to measure up to the previous benchmarks set by my cousins. An interracial marriage would not only provide gorgeous children, but a totally unique marriage experience that no one in my family has experienced before, and I look forward to my future husband and I sharing our different culture and upbringing.
4. Physically, they don’t have tan lines, and when we’re holding hands, I love the tone of their chocolate complexion next to my caramel complexion…… and Yes, they have larger than life man parts.